This little light of mine,I am gonna let it shine.

Each and everyone of us has a light that dwells within us, a light that burns equally as brightly regardless of who we are, where we come from, or what has happened to us. Our light doesn't care about age, weight, health, relationship status, size of our bank account, race or sexual orientation. Our light has one goal, one objective; to send LIGHT & LOVE out into the world. In daily life though, we often feel separate from love, that love is something we must seek from outside of ourselves. So we search far and wide leaving no stone unturned, and when we think we've finally found love, the real work begins. Now, we must prove ourselves worthy. We falsely believe that there is a need for us to audition for love, often before we even know if we want the part in this particular play. We have bought into the idea that love is a prize to be won; given to the girl who looks the prettiest, who has the best hair, body or performance in bed. Sadly many of us approach love with guarded hearts and a desperate need for certainty.

We all to often find ourselves saying and doing things that don't align with our personal values, fearing that if we show up as we really are we won't be enough,

and not just ourselves but also the object of our affection must fit the image we hold. We control and manipulate, clutch and grasp, when we would sometimes do better to just let go, trust the process. We give so much meaning to being in a relationship, that some of us will settle for any relationship. I see this so often in the women with whom I work, their worth determined by a man wanting them, worrying about what he thinks, why he didn't call, what they did wrong, why they weren't good enough. Interestingly enough when I talk to men about why they didn't pursue a relationship with a certain women it had nothing to do with what wasn't "right about her". In fact they often talk about how great she was but they just weren't feeling the chemistry.

We women don't tend to just stop with romantic love, oh no, we carry this not being "enoughness" into so many other areas of our lives. The jobs we absolutely hate but are afraid to leave or fear of not being able to find another one. The friendship that drains us but we remain friends because people-pleasing is as natural to us as breathing. We buy stuff we don't want, need or can't afford because we have a personal brand that needs to be maintained at all costs, we are invested in people liking us, and believing we have it all together, even if we don't.

Lets talk about the love and kindness we withhold from ourselves every single day of our lives. The unkind words we speak to ourselves about the way we look, "I look like shit today" the words we don't say "Don't ask that question everyone will think you are dumb" or our perceived intelligence "How could I be so stupid?".

We say yes to things we don't want to do "I can do the _____ again", and we say no to things we really do want because we think we shouldn't want them. We don't speak our truth or put up healthy boundaries. Often women ask me"why is this happening to me again?" to which my response is always "Tell me HOW this happening to you again" it's a beautiful thing to see the look of inquiry on their faces and then hear the answer that follows because now they are stepping into their power! We allow so much of our time, energy and resources to flow like a rushing river into everything we don't like, want or need and then we stand on the riverbank of our life an wonder why it is the way it is.

With each new loss, heartbreak or failure we begin playing for safety at an accelerated rate. Certainty becomes the gold standard as our confidence and self-worth diminishes. It's a bit like viewing our self and the world around us through a dirty window. It doesn't matter how stunning the view outside the window is because our personal view has become so dim and distorted we no longer have a clear picture. And yet, deep within our being dwells a little flame. It sits quietly and patiently waiting for its opportunity. You see all it needs, is the tiniest opening of the window, for just one beautiful breathe of fresh air to makes it's way in, and when it does that tiny flames grows. As more fresh air flows in so grows the flame until it burns so big and so bright it sends all it's beautiful golden light out into the world.

This is why the choices we make on a daily basis are so important. Not just for us but for all beings everywhere. Each time we choose to focus on lack, scarcity, feelings of not being good enough, give into our fears and self-doubt we close the window of opportunity, we dim our light and cut off the flow oxygen to our fire.

Every time we make a choice that comes from love, connection, being of service, generosity of spirit, gratitude and surrendering to what is, the wider we open the window of opportunity, we breath life into our fire, into our very being. Love is always our highest source of power. Choices that originate from love are always magnified.

Choices made from love spark joy. Joy is the epicenter of an extraordinary life. It ripples outward from one being to another being, sending beautiful waves of love, connection, hope, inspiration, peace and loving kindness out into the world. The more we send our joy out into the world the more joy we receive in turn, when we send out love for self and others we nurture, we consciously choose love over fear. When we show up like this, our flame burns so brightly it can't help but ignite all the flames around it. This is the power of being our most loving, joyful selves. It is also why we must cultivate loving kindness towards ourselves, because no-one can give what they do not have. So today I want to invite each and everyone of you to begin your personal spring cleaning. To clean up not just the window through which you see yourself and the world but also all the areas where the energy feels stale or heavy, where there is no joy.

Today could be the beginning of a beautiful new life for you. An opportunity to gain a greater sense of certainty in a healthy and productive way. No more trying to control the outer world, which can't be controlled anyway ( after all, if it could you would have already figured out how), but by looking deeply at where you allow your thoughts and energy to flow. Ask yourself the question; where do I let opportunity in and where do I shut it out?

This could be achieved as simply as getting outside for a short hike or taking a yoga class ( changing your mental and physical state ). Choosing healthy homemade meals over processed convenience food. Trying meditation, purging your life and home of stuff you no longer need, removing everything and anything from your bedroom that doesn't add to a feeling of sensuality, peace and tranquility. Placing some fresh cut flowers on your night stand and going to bed a little earlier. You'll be amazed how good to feels to wake up well rested in a beautiful room! For some of you one of the best acts of self-love might be taking care of your body and focusing on your health and wellness. For others it could be doing a better job with managing the amount of demands you allow others to place upon you. How many of you could benefit from a more positive money mindset?

Light and love always dwell within us even when we can not feel it. Our life is always ours to create even when we feel like all hope is gone, perhaps especially at those times. Our time, energy and resources are precious and finite, so why not create a life built around love. Love for self, for others, for the planet. A life that feels good on the inside as well as the outside,a beautiful, amazing life is within us all.

Thank you so much for reading, if you enjoyed this post I welcome your comments below and please share with your friends!

Much Love and Many Blessings

Jenn xoxox